Teen: What is Super Dating?

"Will you be my girlfriend?"  

I stopped dead in the middle of the note.  This wasn't some message from a crazy boy that I didn't know, this wasn't a scary man, this was a guy that I actually liked...a LOT!  I already knew my answer though because I had made the promise to myself that I would NEVER have a boyfriend in High School.

No I didn't say no because of my religion.  I didn't even realize that it was stated clearly in the text For the Strength of Youth that we shouldn't steady date during our High School days.  I had decided for one reason only...I had two people close to me that I had watched growing up.  One had not dated seriously in High School.  He seemed to have so much fun, going to parties, dances, and different events with lots of girls.  It seemed like a more social life.  The other person I knew had a girlfriend, and they were always so secluded.  There was more drama in their relationship, and it didn't seem that fun.  If I was going to have to go through High School, I wanted to have fun.  So I chose.

It was the best decision I ever made.

But how does one not have a boyfriend/girlfriend in High School?  I mean, with the example of the guy I liked...you kind of do have your favorites.  You know, people who really stand out from the others.  You might even see it really going somewhere with them.  Well, whether you are wanting to follow the prophet, or just because you want High School to be more fun and social- here is my solution for you.

Super Dating.

That's right.  Just imagine Dating with a red cape.  That's all it is.  It is everyone's favorite superhero.  It rescues even the most lonely person, and leaves them with a smile.  The idea is simple.  Just think of MICE.  I am not saying that you have to have a mouse on your date- but it does stand for what you need to do to have a super date.

Many or Few, more than just two
Interactive
Creative
Energizing

So the first requirement is pretty simple.  To have a Super Date, you need to grab either one buddy or many, and all get a date.  This makes it super because all the pressure is off of you.  If you all carry the weight, then it makes the date more fun FOR EVERYONE.  Really.  Promise.  Another part of this is to go with many different people.  If you ask someone on a date who is not in your friend group...or even someone who hasn't been asked on ANY dates EVER, you'd better let me know.  You will be advanced to the Super Duper Daters club.  This is only for the elite. 

The second is interaction.  Have you ever tried to talk to someone while they were playing a video game or watching a movie?  Either you feel like you are in zombie world or they ask "what?" a million times.  If you want a super date, it has to be one where people are interacting.  You know talking, playing games, poking at each other, saying cheesy puns.  You get the idea.  Why is this necessary?  Because it has been clinically proven to improve the experience of a date by *200/2%.  I am not saying that you can't watch a movie or go to a concert, or play video games,  but that should be only a small part of the date.  Otherwise it will lose it's SUPER status.

Creative....now don't get worked up by this one.  Some of you are thinking "It takes me forever to think of something cool," or "Where do you buy creativity?"  The truth is, that we live in a day where their are millions and millions of date ideas out there (meet my friend google), all you have to do, is make it fit to your liking.  So let's say you want to go get ice cream as a group, and you all really like superheros.  Well you could all go get ice cream dressed up as super heroes???  Now maybe that's not your style.  You are more athletic than dramatic.  Well for you super stars, you could go on a bike ride to the ice cream shop.  Same location, different dates.  Get creative- let your imagination go wild!  Think of new places to visit, or how to make the same places you always visit a little bit special.   

Before you think by writing "energizing" that I mean you have to sweat, and workout...let me clarify.  To energize means to give life and enthusiasm to.  To who???  YOUR DATE and YOUR GROUP.  If you leave a date feeling groggy and like it really wasn't that fun, usually it was because of what you did.  Either their was not enough interaction time, or what you were doing wasn't lovely, of good report, or praiseworthy (look that up in the dictionary!).  So when you are planning, try to make sure that there is some energy in there.  That it may leave people feeling good.

Okay...so you are still feeling lost?  Well, just for you, I will be doing a Super Date series where I post some fun ideas that others or myself have done- as well as some creative ways to ask for a date.  Oh, and you don't have to wait for a dance to ask people in a fun/special way because you are now officially a Super Dater.

*No animals were harmed in the process of this dating experiment.  Results may not be accurate, but mostly we felt it was a no-brainer.